Guess what? I did love it.

I loved Into The Woods.

I loved standing on the stage and talking with my whole body to push someone into MORE.

I loved thinking about the myriad of ways to hear every line.

My wishes have just been crushed.

Agreed.

Providence!

The path has strayed from you.

No more.

How can we ever know?

Makes the or mean more than he did before.

Wishes come true, not free.

.... home before dark.

I loved blocking the midnights

I loved making blood and toes and heels with my girls.

I loved wrapping that baby.

I loved listening to them sing.

I loved watching them dance.

I loved it when the cow died.

I loved making them run through the halls.

I loved it when they took care of each other.

Right? Right.

I loved that they trusted me. Mostly. I love that they mostly trusted me.

I miss them.

I miss their zany.

I miss their 'ah hahs'.

I miss the story.

I miss the energy.

I miss the edge.

Its nice to be safe in the trees again.

Its nice to sleep and to cook and to run and to clean and to eat with David.

It really is.

What a blessing to have amazing moments to miss.

Life is rich.

Next time I'm going to do better at loving what I will love while it is loving me.

I promise.

I promise.

Dumb.

I read a book last week about health in the last third of your life.

I’m left wondering whether or not I’m in the last third of my life.

I suppose if I die by the time I’m 60, then yes – the next twenty

years will be the last third of my life. But my plan is to live well into my 90’s

(and really, why not to 100? but after that seems excessive and kind

of braggy) and so I won’t be entering the last third of my life until

I’m 60 and so that means that right now I’m not even half way

finished. Thinking that I might learn again as much as I’ve learned

so far is all at once thrilling, exhausting, daunting and a mighty

relief. Because really I don’t feel like I know very many things.

Frank Lloyd Wright said “The trick is to grow up without growing old.” (I like so much of what Frank Lloyd Wright did – amazing architect and thinker. I really don’t admire the way he went about loving women.) How are they different?

Kipling’s IF resonates when I think about growing up.

He says you are grown up “if you…

… can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you;


If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,


But make allowance for their doubting too:


If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,


If you can dream---and not make dreams your master;


If you can think---and not make thoughts your aim,

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster


And treat those two impostors just the same."

It really is moderation isn’t it?

And moderation with the moderation too. Not

getting caught up, carried away, or drowning in any one thing –

but then, to be sure to experience getting caught up

and carried away – some way, some time.

Richard Dreyfuss said “part of me is still waiting to grow up,

to be an adult, and the other part knows there is no such thing.”

No such thing as a grown up? Someone who is all the way ….

finished? Yes, I agree. ING. It will always be ING.

Sometimes we grow out and sideways and in

circles and upside down even. I suppose it all counts.

I sure hope it does, cause it is hard work – the ING.

We must become a creature that wants to change

and does not fear it.

Every time I sit with my grandmother,

she pats my knee and rocks back and says “well,

everything is going to be just fine.” No matter the topic,

no matter the weight, she knows everything is going

to be just fine. How does she know that? Somewhere in all of

those years, she learned that we can’t own it and we can’t know it

and we can’t even mess it up.

We get to the end of the

movie and realize that it really did end just the way we

thought it would. It took unexpected turns and twists,

but the end was just what we thought it would be.

I’m quite convinced that part of the age game is coping with watching the people

around you age. Nothing makes me feel older than celebrating the

birthday of one of my children. Particularly the oldest and the

youngest. I have been known to pine for more children so that

I could feel younger. If I have an infant in my arms, somehow

I am also at the beginning. Why am I so afraid of being in the middle?

You know – I’d really love a crack at the beginning now that I know

what I know from the middle. But then my middle would be

different because I would change the beginning, and then maybe I wouldn't know what I know from the middle.

Within my social structure, I can find many age groups. Its invigorating and maddening. I spend a lot of time with kids

between 13 and 15, and then add my very own 14, 16 and 17 year olds, and I've got a world teeming with teenagers. They make me doubt my ability to reason. They make me question my every thought and I also

see life afresh and with hope and possibility. And they make me laugh.

Due to unique circumstances I also have a group of friends in their 20’s and early 30’s. This group makes me restless. This is the group that urges me to want to start over and try it again. But I know it would take about 8 tries to really get it right, so I think I’m happier just moving forward. Strangely, I pass around advice to this group. I want to stop. I just want to pat their knees and tell them that everything is going to be alright. They are doing things differently than me and sometimes I reel in jealousy. That’s pretty dumb. I have everything I wish and we don’t all wish the same wishes. But sometimes I wonder if someone else’s wishes would look good on me.

Yep – dumb.

We are dumb.

Born dumb, live dumb, die dumb.

Maybe the secret is to be ok with all the dumb. My dumb – your dumb – his…

And live anyway.

Jump anyway.

Fly anyway.

Cry anyway.

I’m not afraid. Not even of my very own dumb. Well, I’m trying at least. Maybe by the time I’m in my last third… or sixth…. or eighteenth, I won’t be afraid of anything dumb.

Out of the Woods

As Jessie and I observed this evening as we drove past, I haven't been in the school for four days in a row. Wild. I don't think that has happened since last summer. Its wonderful, invigorating, strange and depressing. Not too depressing.

It is always such an interesting transition to come down from a show. Every time I have slept in the last 4 days I have dreamt about the show, or the kids in the show. This morning I had my alarm set and every time it went off I eventually noticed that I was testing myself to see if I could mentally navigate the entire show without missing a scene. Each time the alarm went off, I started again at the beginning and tried to get through it before the snooze wore off. After 8 or 10 times of this I realized what was happening and begged the sleep god to let me rest without the show for a few minutes. This afternoon I got to take a nap - aaahhh - and when I started to wake up I realized I was hearing "I know things now" in my sleep and reblocking the scene. The other night I dreamt about a big fight that all of the kids were having. It goes on and on. So... I suppose it will really be over when I wake up Woodsless one morning.

I guess its not really that I miss the show specifically or the kids or the experience even, but more there is a space in my time, my mind, my heart dare I say, where the show used to be. And now there isn't anything there. What will I put there? How will I fill the void? I started reading a book about exercise and nutrition in the last few days and I guess part of me wants to fill it with that. Heaven knows it will take a monumental amount of emotional energy to find the will power to do some of the physical things I'd like to tackle. I finished the book this afternoon - right before and after dozing off for my nap - and my gut reaction to it was to eat strawberry shortcake for dinner and then 4 or 5 more pieces while I watched 2 1/2 movies before bed. I did walk the hill today. Semi-virtuous.

I'd like to be someone I'm not good at being. An organized and doting house wife and mother. Organized house wife, doting mother. I lack discipline. I'm happy to do the laundry once a week, and clean out a drawer quarterly. I garden every other year, and rotate food storage with about the same amount of frequency. I adore my children. I love having them around when I am doing what I want to do. They are always invited into my life. But I want to be invited into theirs. I want to watch carefully and see what they choose and then help with that. I want to do more than adore and love, -- I want to dote and smother. And I want to do 3.2 loads of laundry each day, make a hot dinner daily, zone clean one area of the house each week, work in the garden 3 hours a week and then 2 hours on Saturday. I want to exercise 45 minutes, 6 days a week, read uplifting books 30-90 minutes a day, clean out the desk and drawers, answer email, work on family history, eat only fruits and vegetables and whole grains found only at Whole Foods, and ....

But I'm afraid of being bored. I want to be good at being bored. It will take some practice. And then I won't be bored. I will be fulfilled. Right? Right. ?

So, this is what may fill the void. All of that stuff. All of the stuff I've pined for over the last 7 months. I finally get to do it.

I wish...

No, I don't wish. I want...

No, I don't want. I am. I will be.

Oh... to be different. To want what is now. What is here. What is mine.

I'm grateful. ......only grateful.